Bachelor Girl

Listen up, ladies, 'cause this one's for you! If you're looking for a fascinating read about the history of American single women, "Bachelor Girl" would be an excellent choice. The author, Betsy Israel, who was a former columnist for Glamour as well as a contributor to the New York Times and Vogue among others, gives a concise and entertaining look at the lives of single women throughout the entire twentieth century and what exactly it means to be a "spinster" or "old maid."

There has always been a stigma attached to either of the above-mentioned terms for older women who have never wed, but do we know how this actually came to be? Israel explains this and many other related topics in her book with academic writing and footnotes while also using interviews with women from different generations to add an anecdotal spice.

The book is broken up into chapters each focusing on a different decade and what single women had to face during that time. After reading "Bachelor Girl," I began to realize how far women really have come. It's hard for us younger women to remember a time when it was not encouraged for a woman to have any career other than wife and mother, but such a time existed only about fifty years ago. Example of this (from a female advice columnist, about 1954): "Every American girl must acquire for herself a husband and a home and children... any program for life in which the home is not the center of her living, is worse than death." Whoa.

 I have no problem with women wanting to get married and have kids- I'm married myself. But that is not every woman's dream and it doesn't have to be. Single women should be able to be single without harassment or questions ("So when are you finally going to tie the knot?"). I really liked how Israel ended the book: "There have been too many epitaphs for the single woman, and almost every one of them is pathetic. She is not."

Amen, sister!